More Than A Daughter

a 14 week program designed to deeply explore and attend to your mother wound + the unresolved issues with your mother that are holding you back from living a fulfilling life on your own terms.

More Than A Daughter has been designed specifically for Highly Sensitive Women and offers a safe and nurturing space for you to explore the depths of your emotions, uncover hidden wounds, and embark on a path towards wholeness.

You’ve been haunted by the feelings of being an ‘ungrateful daughter’ while trying to come to terms with having an emotionally unavailable or inconsistent mother. You try to ignore the anger and resentment you carry toward your mother yet you see it coming out sideways. The older you get, the more you can’t deny something has always felt ‘off’ in your relationship with her, but have never had the words or the safety to articulate and explore it. You’re sick of pretending like everything’s fine while feeling deeply disconnected.

You’re in the right place.

Imagine how it would feel to… 

  • stop wondering and worrying what your mother thinks of you and instead invest that wasted energy into actually living your life.

  • plan your life, your vacations, holidays in a way that honours your values…not just to ‘keep the peace’

  • be able to finally put language to your experience and name the ache you’ve carried inside - and then tend to that ache with the attunement and nurturing you’ve always needed.

  • trust other women and not feel like every woman you meet is someone to compare yourself to or compete with.

  • confidently say ‘no thank you’ to the things that no longer serve you and ‘hell yes’ to your desires. Mom: why don’t you come over for Sunday dinner? You: thank you for the invite, but I am going to stay home and recharge - I have a big week ahead. Also you: goes for a long walk in the woods, followed by take out from your favourite Italian spot and a luxurious long bubble bath while listening to your favourite podcast and slipping into bed nice and early.

Together we will help you learn the skills, tools and perspectives to make all of this possible.

More Than A Daughter

An intimate group experience for women who are ready to be honest about their relationship with their mother, shed layers of guilt and shame and move into a space of acceptance all while forming life long bonds, finally prioritizing your care and letting go of the desire to mother your mother.

More Than A Daughter is about uncovering and recovering the parts of yourself you’ve had to hide away because of the immense energy that has been funnelled to your relationship with your mom. You do not need to have any specific relationship with your mom (active, low contact, no contact, deceased) in order to greatly benefit from this work, because at the heart of this you’re more than a daughter.

More Than A Daughter is for you if:

  • You have a problematic relationship with your mother and have had very little support around this taboo subject

  • Your mother was emotionally unavailable or inconsistent. You experienced walking on eggshells and shaped your emotional world around her emotional/mental state.

  • You are living your life for everyone else and easily fall into martyr/victim energy.

  • You are hung up on the “impossible dream” - thinking if you just say or do the right thing - your mother will magically ‘get it’ and then you can finally move forward.

  • You lack boundaries with others and yourself and often hold resentments.

  • You have a visceral reaction to hearing the words ‘mother hunger’.

  • Your greatest fear is turning into your mother.

  • You have a deep and unyielding desire to be the last person in your lineage to perpetuate this harmful cycle.

What you’ll receive:

  • 14 weeks together in community

  • 11 live, 75 minute calls. We will have 3 weeks off for integration: one in November and two in December.

  • We’ll cover topics ranging from: mother hunger, the mother gap, shame, grief, acceptance, re-mothering & your inner child. Calls will be a mix of workshops and coaching.

  • 24/7 group chat for community and witnessing in between calls; where you can give and receive support
    with your fellow members who understand the challenges of this journey - so much magic happens here!

  • Resources and tools that you’ll learn to apply yourself, so you can become your own advocate and coach during challenging times.

✨knowing that instead of passing along your mother’s wounding - you can pass along your healing - is one of the most liberating feelings an adult daughter can experience. You do this for yourself. You do this for future generations. ✨

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Pay-What-Supports-You:

in an effort to keep this work accessible while also creating a reciprocal energy exchange, I’m introducing pay-what-supports-you pricing, which has been inspired by Simone Grace Seol & the Green Bottle Method by Worts + Cunning.

Consider the following as a guide for deciding to which investment is appropriate for your personal circumstances.

$1350.00

you have access to financial security, own property or have personal saving & you would not traditionally qualify for sliding scale services. If you are able to pay for "wants" and spend little time worried about securing basic necessities in your life, you have economic privilege and power in your community - this price is for you.

3 month payment plan option ends August 10/23

$1050.00

paying the full cost would prevent you from being able to attend and you do not honestly find yourself reflected in either descriptions for the highest cost or the lowest. Making this investment might mean you might have to cut back on some discretionary spending in your life (meals out, fancy coffees, buying a new outfit, or going on vacation), but the sacrifice is short-term, and will not harm you in the long term.

3 month payment plan option ends Aug 10/23

$750.00

if you struggle to maintain access to basic needs such as housing, food, child care, or are in significant debt without any savings, you probably belong here and you deserve a community that honours your price as equal an economic offering as the person who can pay the highest tier. There are a limited number of spots available at this tier so please be sure this is truly the correct tier for you before selecting.

3 month payment plan option ends Aug 10/23

  • Testimonial

    It was such an absolute pleasure working with Kristy. She has an incredibly calming presence and so much empathy. Going through this process, it was so helpful to have that demeanor. She was so patient and responsive to all of my questions and messages on all the channels (Voxer, email, IG). I just felt like she was truly focused on me. I feel like I grew a lot across this process, even more so than years of therapy and other coaching. I have changed and taken better control of my life and understood how to put myself first. I took some big and scary steps with her support. And I've undoubtedly improved my relationships and taken accountability for my role in conflicts.”
    - Former Client (name withheld for privacy)

  • Testimonial

    “The nervous feeling I had at the start of my first coaching call quickly calmed when I hear Kristy’s voice. It is soft, kind, soothing and compassionate. Kristy listened with patience and softly guided me to feel my emotions, but not become them. She has changed my life by helping me to accept the duality of my circumstances. I can grieve my estranged relatives but also know that the decision is best for me and is necessary for my mental health. Kristy has an uncanny ability to connect with those who are lucky enough to be guided by her, and shares her own experiences with candour.” - Carrie W.

  • Testimonial

    “I worked with Kristy through a group coaching program exploring the motherwound. She acted as a facilitator over the course of the 3 month program. She has an incredibly gentle and thoughtful way of being, of sitting with you and honouring whatever your personal process is. Just talking to her feels like an exhale. I felt seen and held and immediately comfortable in my vulnerability. I’m very grateful for the lessons and reflections she offered on her own experiences with her motherwound. I’m so impressed by the way she managed to alchemize all that pain into something that - truly - radiates so much peace in every direction.”
    - Lidia K.

  • Testimonial

    “Kristy has a gentle and compassionate energy that made me feel safe and understood and supported. She has helped me release shame and guilt as a result of the mother wound, she has led me to greater self acceptance especially around being highly sensitive and introverted, and she has given me incredibly practical and effective tools for self care and healing that have changed my life!” - Audrey G.

  • Testimonial

    If you ever get the chance to work with Kristy, do it! She has the most calming and understanding soul. With Kristy, you can celebrate your wins and be held through the tough times - she feels like a big, loving hug. Kristy made me feel safe when I needed a guide in some extremely difficult times. - Laura S.

 FAQs

  • No. I’ve worked with people who are full contact, low or no contact as well as women whose mother’s have passed away. The only criteria is to be honest and open with yourself about the reality of the relationship with your mother - past and/or present.

  • This group is for women + women-identifying folks - it is a shared space where everyone's voice and experience matters. In order to keep everyone feeling welcome and comfortable, it's important to be thoughtful about the language you use and be respectful of others' lived experiences.

  • It can be scary trying something for the first time so first off, I’d like to commend you for stepping outside of your comfort zone. That’s a big part of what re-mothering is about - doing things that might not necessarily come naturally, but we do them because we know they are good for us. In coaching, I help you understand and get to the heart of the issue, challenge limiting and false beliefs, encourage new perspectives and hold space during what can be a tender and emotional journey. My specific style of coaching is based in the principle that deep down, people do truly know what’s best for them - but often they need support in uncovering and being honest about what those things are. I absolutely believe in my clients’ ability to grow and change beyond what they ever thought was possible for them and hold them in the highest and most loving regard as they begin to heal this deep wound. Doing this work in a safe and contained group setting creates lasting bonds and dissipates the shame that has told you that “no one gets it” or that “I’m the only one.”

  • More Than A Daughter begins on Tuesday, October 10th, 2023 and runs until for 14 weeks until Tuesday, January 9th, 2024. All calls will take place on Zoom Tuesdays at 12pm ET and run for 75 minutes. We will have three weeks off for integration: one in November and two in December. All calls will be recorded and sent out within 24 hours for anyone who can’t attend live. This group is intentionally being held over the holidays so you can receive support during what can be a difficult season for many.

  • This group is all about community. There is a private group chat just for members to connect, support and celebrate one another in between calls. This is where so much bonding takes place. The private chat is a place of support and refuge.

  • I totally get it. I remember the first group program I enrolled in…I was worried - would I like it, would these people get me? How can I talk about things that are so personal with a bunch of strangers? Your fears are okay and make sense.

    AND

    There’s so much healing that happens when we find out that we aren’t the only ones having these challenging experiences. When we hear our stories and experiences mirrored back to us. When we find out that we aren’t completely alone in our feelings and there are truly people out there who get us. This is the magic of a group coaching experience.

    The other thing that we are so often missing is true, genuine connection. Group coaching is where you not only realize you aren’t alone, but where you also develop genuine, lasting connection with other people who get it.

    All of that said, if you still very much feel like you want to do this work, but a group doesn’t feel like the right environment for you in this season, we can also explore working privately, 1:1.

  • When you sign up before August 10th, you will have access to the three month payment plan. When you sign up before September 10th, you will have access to the 2 month payment plan. If you sign up after September 10th, the only available option will be to pay in full.

  • This program runs on tiered pricing. You can review the different criteria for each level and choose the one that is most appropriate for your circumstances.

  • I’m so happy to made this decision for your current and future self! After enrolling you will get a welcome email and an opportunity to ask any questions you may have. In September, you will receive an onboarding form, directions for accessing our group chat and a call calendar link so all call info will be automatically placed in your calendar.

Meet Your Facilitator

Kristy Sarausky made a life of making homes outside of herself - in alcohol, distraction and other people - all as a way of evading the deep ache of not not-enoughness. The pain took her down some very dark roads and in 2019 she said ‘no more’ and decided it was time to confront the pain of her childhood and the impact that the relationship with her mother has having on her emotional, mental and spiritual health. Through relentless and continuous re-mothering practices she knows that the very best mother actually lies within. Kristy is privileged to help other women explore, uncover and cultivate much more meaningful relationships with themselves and as a byproduct, others.